In our world, we have this huge focus on vicarious living - politicians, movie stars, athletes, coaches, all these people. What our research has shown very clearly is that people who are really happier and have more meaningful lives are people that focus on living their own lives.
Interpretation
True happiness comes from living authentically rather than through the experiences of others.
This quote by Marshall Goldsmith emphasizes the importance of living one's own life fully, rather than seeking fulfillment through the accomplishments or lifestyles of others. It suggests that genuine happiness and meaning in life are found when individuals focus on their personal journeys and self-fulfillment, rather than being influenced by the successes or failures of others, particularly public figures.
In practice
During a personal development seminar, to inspire attendees to focus on their own goals.
Active questions are the alternative to passive questions. There is a huge difference between, 'Do you have clear goals?' and 'Did you do your best to set clear goals for yourself?' The former is trying to determine the employee's state of mind; the latter challenges the employee to describe or defend a course of action.
Treat every piece of advice as a gift or a compliment and simply say, “Thank you.
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When we are well, we all have good advice for those who are ill.
[My favorite word is] and. It is so hopeful.
Avoid the tyranny of the reasonable voice...it will guarantee a complacency of never trying anything adventurous.
I have great respect for the past. If you don't know where you've come from, you don't know where you're going. I have respect for the past, but I'm a person of the moment. I'm here, and I do my best to be completely centered at the place I'm at, then I go forward to the next place.
The Devil is easy to identify. He appears when you're terribly tired and makes a very reasonable request which you know you shouldn't grant.
The limits of pleasure are as yet neither known nor fixed, and that we have no idea what degree of bodily bliss we are capable of attaining.
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