Regard as your most faithful friends, not those who praise everything you say or do, but those who criticize your mistakes.
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Abhor flatterers as you would deceivers; for both, if trusted, injure those who trust them. If you admit as friends men who seek your favor for the lowest ends, your life will be lacking in friends who will risk your displeasure for the highest good.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Beware of those who flatter you, as their motives may be insincere and harmful.
Isocrates emphasizes the importance of discerning genuine friendships versus superficial relationships. He warns that those who seek your favor for their own selfish ends can lead to a lack of true friendships, as they may prioritize their own interests over your well-being. Genuine friends are those who are willing to challenge you and put your best interests at heart, even at the risk of discomfort or disapproval.
Themes
FriendshipTrustFlatterySincerityWisdom
In practice
Example use cases
During a motivational speech about building authentic relationships.
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