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When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.
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What this quote means
Setting boundaries is crucial for healthy relationships; failing to do so leads to feelings of being mistreated.
Brené Brown emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries in interpersonal relationships. When we neglect to set limits and fail to hold others accountable for their actions, it can lead to feelings of being taken advantage of, mistreated, or even resentful. Instead of addressing unacceptable behaviors, we may resort to attacking the person's character, which can cause more harm than good. This quote highlights the need for clear communication and mutual respect in our connections with others.
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In practice
Example use cases
In a workshop on healthy relationships, this quote can be used to illustrate the importance of setting boundaries.
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