When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.
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Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from taking flight.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Perfectionism can hinder personal growth and progress rather than protect us.
BrenΓ© Brown's quote reflects the idea that the pursuit of perfection is not a safeguard against failure or inadequacy; instead, it creates a burden that can stifle creativity and personal development. The 'twenty-ton shield' symbolizes how our desire for perfection can become a heavy obstacle, preventing us from taking risks, embracing vulnerability, and ultimately achieving our true potential.
Themes
PerfectionismGrowthFearVulnerabilityRiskObstacle
In practice
Example use cases
During a workshop on creativity, I shared this quote to encourage participants to embrace imperfection.
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