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The Buddha taught that we're not actually in control, which is a pretty scary idea. But when you let things be as they are, you will be a much happier, more balanced, compassionate person.
Pema Chodron
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Interpretation

What this quote means

The quote emphasizes the importance of accepting life's unpredictability for achieving happiness and balance.

Pema Chodron reflects on a core teaching of the Buddha, suggesting that the illusion of control can lead to fear and anxiety. Embracing life as it is, without trying to manipulate outcomes, allows individuals to cultivate inner peace, compassion, and a more fulfilling existence.

Themes

AcceptanceHappinessControlBalanceCompassion

In practice

Example use cases

In a meditation class discussing mindfulness.

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