Know what we did, Lucy? You and me? We spent our whole lives yearning. Isn't that the God damndest thing?
Richard YatesRead
She was calm and quiet now with knowing what she had always known, what neither her parents nor Aunt Claire nor Frank nor anyone else had ever had to teach her: that if you wanted something to do something absolutely honest, something true, it always turned out to be a thing that had to be done alone.
Interpretation
What this quote means
True honesty often requires solitude and self-discovery.
This quote reflects the idea that the most genuine and honest actions often come from within, rather than being influenced or taught by others. It emphasizes the importance of personal conviction and the realization that certain truths and decisions must be made independently, highlighting the value of introspection and self-reliance in the pursuit of authenticity.
Themes
HonestySolitudeSelf-DiscoveryTruthAuthenticity
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can inspire a motivational speech about the power of independence.
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