The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating his soul, for the result is an interference with his ability to feel, to be aware, and to remember.
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Child abuse damages a person for life and that damage is in no way diminished by the ignorance of the perpetrator. It is only with the uncovering of the complete truth as it affects all those involved that a genuinely viable solution can be found to the dangers of child abuse.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Child abuse has lifelong effects, and understanding the truth is essential for finding solutions.
This quote by Alice Miller emphasizes the severe and lasting impact of child abuse on individuals, regardless of the perpetrator's awareness or intent. It suggests that only by confronting and acknowledging the full truth of these experiences can society hope to develop effective solutions to prevent and address child abuse.
Themes
Child AbuseTruthDamageSolutionPerpetrator
In practice
Example use cases
In a seminar about child welfare, this quote can highlight the importance of addressing the truth behind abuse.
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All quotes →The truth about childhood, as many of us have had to endure it, is inconceivable, scandalous, painful. Not uncommonly, it is monstrous. Invariably, it is repressed. To be confronted with this truth all at once and to try to integrate it into our consciousness, however ardently we may wish it, is clearly impossible.
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I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively--because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.
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