Depression can seem worse than terminal cancer, because most cancer patients feel loved and they have hope and self-esteem.
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Cognitive therapy is based on the idea that when you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel and behave. In other words, if we can learn to think about other people in a more positive and realistic way, it will be far easier to resolve conflicts and develop rewarding personal and professional relationships.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Changing your thoughts can lead to changes in feelings and behaviors, enhancing relationships.
This quote emphasizes the profound impact of cognitive therapy, highlighting that by adjusting our thinking patterns, particularly in how we view others, we can significantly alter our emotional responses and behaviors. This shift can facilitate conflict resolution and foster more fulfilling personal and professional relationships, ultimately improving our overall quality of life.
Themes
Cognitive TherapyThoughtsFeelingsBehaviorRelationships
In practice
Example use cases
A therapist can use this quote during a session to illustrate the importance of cognitive restructuring in therapy.
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