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What is commonly called 'falling in love' is in most cases an intensification of egoic wanting and needing. You become addicted to another person, or rather to your image of that person. It has nothing to do with true love, which contains no wanting whatsoever.
Eckhart Tolle
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Falling in love is often driven by ego and desire rather than true love, which is selfless.

Eckhart Tolle suggests that what many people perceive as 'falling in love' is actually a manifestation of ego-driven needs and desires, where individuals become fixated on their image of another person. True love, on the other hand, is devoid of such wanting; it is characterized by a deep, unconditional connection that is not based on addiction or attachment to an idealized version of someone else.

Themes

LoveEgoAttachmentTrue LoveDesire

In practice

Example use cases

A speaker at a relationship workshop could use this quote to explain the difference between infatuation and genuine love.

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