Never once, during any of my bouts of depression, had I been inclined or able to pick up a telephone and ask a friend for help. It wasn't in me.
Kay Redfield JamisonRead
It was as if my father had given me, by way of temperament, an impossibly wild, dark, and unbroken horse. It was a horse without a name, and a horse with no experience of a bit between its teeth. My mother taught me to gentle it; gave me the discipline and love to break it; and- as Alexander had known so intuitively with Bucephalus- she understood, and taught me, that the beast was best handled by turning it toward the sun.
Interpretation
This quote illustrates the dual influence of a father and mother in shaping one's character and spirit.
Kay Redfield Jamison uses the metaphor of a wild horse to represent the untamed aspects of her personality and temperament passed down from her father. The quote emphasizes the nurturing role of her mother in teaching her discipline and love in order to harness these strong traits, suggesting that with guidance and understanding, one's inherent qualities can be directed positively, much like turning a horse towards the sun to guide its energy and spirit.
In practice
In a graduation speech about personal growth and family influence.
Never once, during any of my bouts of depression, had I been inclined or able to pick up a telephone and ask a friend for help. It wasn't in me.
No pill can help me deal with the problem of not wanting to take pills; likewise, no amount of psychotherapy alone can prevent my manias and depressions. I need both. It is an odd thing, owing life to pills, one's own quirks and tenacities, and this unique, strange, and ultimately profound relationship called psychotherapy
Mood disorders are terribly painful illnesses, and they are isolating illnesses. And they make people feel terrible about themselves when, in fact, they can be treated.
When people are suicidal, their thinking is paralyzed, their options appear spare or nonexistent, their mood is despairing, and hopelessness permeates their entire mental domain. The future cannot be separated from the present, and the present is painful beyond solace. ‘This is my last experiment,’ wrote a young chemist in his suicide note. ‘If there is any eternal torment worse than mine I’ll have to be shown.
When public figures remain silent about depression, there is a cost to the rest of society. Silence contributes to the misperception that successful people do not get depressed, and it keeps the public from seeing that treatment allows many individuals to return to competitive professional lives.
Because I teach and write about depression and bipolar illness, I am often asked what is the most important factor in treating bipolar disorder. My answer is competence. Empathy is important, but competence is essential.
Before you judge me , try hard to love me , look within your heart Then ask , - have you seen my childhood ?
Always make the other person feel important.
Marriage is a school itself. Also, having children. Becoming a father changed my whole life. It taught me as if by revelation.
I think same sex couples should be able to get married.
The immense joy in welcoming back the lost son hides in the immense sorrow that has gone before....our brokenness may appear beautiful, but our brokenness has no other beauty but the beauty that comes from the compassion that surrounds it.
I don't even know how to speak up for myself, because I don't really have a father who would give me the confidence or advice.
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