Most of us have spent our lives caught up in plans, expectations, ambitions for the future; in regrets, guilt or shame about the past. To come into the present is to stop the war.
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Forgiveness does not mean that we have to continue to relate to those who have done us harm. In some cases the best practice may be to end our connection, to never speak to or be with a harmful person again. Sometimes in the process of forgiveness a person who hurts or betrayed us may wish to make amends, but even this does not require us to put ourselves in the way of further harm.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Forgiveness doesn't necessitate maintaining a relationship with those who have harmed us.
This quote emphasizes that forgiveness is a personal journey and not a requirement to continue associating with those who have caused us pain. It acknowledges that while forgiveness can be pursued, it is essential to prioritize our well-being, which may involve distancing ourselves from individuals who have been harmful, regardless of their attempts to make amends.
Themes
ForgivenessRelationshipsHarmWell-BeingBoundaries
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared in therapy sessions to discuss the importance of healthy boundaries.
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