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Trying to learn to be a good man is like learning to play tennis against a wall. You are only a good man - a competent, capable, interesting and lovable man - when you're doing it for, or with, other people.
A. A. Gill
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Being a good person means engaging with others, not just self-improvement.

A. A. Gill suggests that the journey of personal development, such as becoming a good man, cannot be undertaken in solitude. Just as tennis requires a partner to play against, character and virtue are cultivated through our interactions and relationships with others. It is in these connections that we truly grow and learn what it means to be a good and effective person.

Themes

GoodnessRelationshipsPersonal GrowthCommunityConnection

In practice

Example use cases

In a speech about community service, one might say, 'As A. A. Gill expresses, trying to become a good person is truly a collective journey.'

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