You know the old adage: Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment.
Elizabeth GilbertRead
It is not we as individuals, then, who must bend uncomfortably around the institution of marriage; rather, it is the institution of marriage that has to bend uncomfortably around us.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Marriage should adapt to individual needs rather than individuals conforming to its rigid structure.
In this quote, Elizabeth Gilbert emphasizes the idea that the institution of marriage should be flexible and accommodating to the personal growth and individuality of its members. She argues that rather than individuals feeling pressured to fit into the traditional expectations of marriage, it is essential for the institution itself to evolve and bend to meet the diverse realities and complexities of modern relationships.
Themes
MarriageRelationshipsAdaptationIndividualityFlexibility
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding ceremony, one might quote this to emphasize the importance of a modern understanding of marriage.
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