Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.
Alfred AdlerRead
In the investigation of a neurotic style of life, we must always suspect an opponent, and note who suffers most because of the patient's condition. Usually this is a member of the family.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights the impact of an individual's neurosis on their family members, suggesting that those closest often bear the burden.
Alfred Adler emphasizes that when examining the neurotic behaviors of an individual, it is crucial to recognize the effects those behaviors have on others, particularly family members. Often, it is the family who endures the most significant suffering due to the patient's condition, indicating a complex relational dynamic where one's personal issues can lead to collective pain and dysfunction.
Themes
NeurosisFamilySufferingPsychologyRelationships
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a family therapy session to discuss the impacts of one member's mental health on the entire family.
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