You are 27 or 28 right? It is very tough to live at that age. When nothing is sure. I have sympathy with you.
I've been lonely for so long. And I've been hurt so deeply. If only I could have met you again a long time ago, then I wouldn't have had to take all these detours to get here.' Tengo shook his head. 'I don't think so. This way is just fine. This is exactly the right time. For both of us. [...] We needed that much time.... to understand how lonely we really were.
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What this quote means
This quote reflects on the idea that past loneliness and hurt lead to a greater appreciation of meaningful connections when they finally occur.
In this quote, the character expresses a deep sense of loneliness and pain from the past, wishing for a past encounter to have changed his path. However, the response suggests that the journey, with its struggles, was necessary to reach the current moment of connection, emphasizing that time and experiences shape the understanding of one's relationships and emotional needs.
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Example use cases
During a speech about the importance of timing in relationships, one could cite this quote to illustrate how past experiences shape current connections.
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