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Like everybody who is not in love, he thought one chose the person to be loved after endless deliberations and on the basis of particular qualities or advantages.
Marcel Proust
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Interpretation

What this quote means

People often believe that love is a calculated choice based on specific qualities, rather than a spontaneous feeling.

In this quote, Marcel Proust reflects on the misconception that love is a rational decision made through careful consideration of someone's traits or advantages. He suggests that those who are not in love may think of it as a logical choice, unaware that true love often transcends such deliberations and emerges unexpectedly.

Themes

LoveChoiceFeelingsDeliberationRelationships

In practice

Example use cases

During a discussion on romantic relationships, one could use this quote to emphasize the unpredictability of love.

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