some mornings... I sit at the kitchen table shaking salt into the hairs on my arm, and a feeling shoves up in me: it's finished. Everything went past without me.
Jennifer EganRead
Like many people of my generation, I feel like I survived my adolescent mischief only by a miracle, and it seems too much to hope for that the same miracle would befall my children - therefore, I want to make sure they take fewer chances than I did.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects a parent's desire to protect their children from the mistakes they made in their youth.
Jennifer Egan expresses a common parental sentiment where she acknowledges the reckless behavior of her youth that she survived by sheer luck. She recognizes the unpredictability of life and hopes to guide her children towards safer, more responsible choices to avoid the same perilous situations she encountered, emphasizing a protective and cautious approach to parenting.
Themes
ParentingProtectionMistakesAdolescenceGuidance
In practice
Example use cases
In a parenting workshop about guiding children safely through adolescence.
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