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There is, in lovers, a certain infatuation of egotism; they will have a witness of their happiness, cost that witness what it may.
Charlotte Bronte
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Lovers often seek validation from others about their happiness, even if it comes at a cost.

In this quote, Charlotte Bronte highlights the self-centered nature of love, suggesting that lovers are often so consumed by their own feelings of joy and bliss that they desire others to acknowledge and witness their happiness. This need for validation can sometimes lead to a disregard for the feelings or consequences facing those who are forced to play the role of the witness.

Themes

LoveHappinessRelationshipsEgotismValidation

In practice

Example use cases

This quote can be used in a discussion about the nature of romantic relationships and the importance of external validation.

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