Regard as your most faithful friends, not those who praise everything you say or do, but those who criticize your mistakes.
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Make no man your friend before inquiring how he has used his former friends; for you must expect him to treat you as he has treated them. Be slow to give your friendship, but when you have given it, strive to make it lasting; for it is as reprehensible to make many changes in one's associates as to have no friends at all. Neither test your friends to your own injury nor be willing to forego a test of your companions.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Carefully consider how someone has treated their previous friends before trusting them.
This quote by Isocrates emphasizes the importance of understanding a person's history with their past friendships before entering into a new friendship. It suggests that people's behavior towards others is a strong indicator of how they will behave towards you, highlighting the need for caution and thoughtfulness in forming new relationships. Furthermore, once a friendship is established, it should be nurtured and maintained, as frequent changes in associates can be detrimental.
Themes
FriendshipTrustRelationshipsCautionHistory
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about the value of friendship, one might quote Isocrates to highlight the importance of trust.
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