You know the old adage: Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment.
My mother has made choices in her life, as we all must, and she is at peace with them. I can see her peace. She did not cop out on herself. The benefits of her choices are massive-a long, stable marriage to a man she still calls her best friend; a family that has extended now into grandchildren who adore her; a certainty in her own strength. Maybe some things were sacrificed, and my dad made his sacrifices, too-but who amongst us lives without sacrifice?
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What this quote means
The quote reflects on the choices and sacrifices made in life, underscoring the peace that comes from living authentically and valuing relationships.
In this quote, Elizabeth Gilbert emphasizes the importance of individual choices and the tranquility that comes from standing by them. By highlighting her mother's fulfilled life—grounded in a loving marriage, a supportive family, and personal strength—Gilbert acknowledges that every life involves sacrifices. However, she also suggests that true fulfillment arises from meaningful connections and remaining true to oneself, ultimately leading to a sense of peace and contentment.
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Example use cases
During a family gathering, you might share this quote to reflect on your mother's life choices and the impact on your family's happiness.
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I had always been taught that the pursuit of happiness was my natural (even national) birthright. It is the emotional trademark of my culture to seek happiness. Not just any kind of happiness, either, but profound happiness, even soaring happiness. And what could possibly bring a person more soaring happiness than romantic love.
When I tried this morning, after an hour or so of unhappy thinking, to dip back into my meditation, I took a new idea with me: compassion. I asked my heart if it could please infuse my soul with a more generous perspective on my mind's workings. Instead of thinking that I was a failure, could I perhaps accept that I am only a human being--and a normal one, at that?
And when you sense a faint potentiality for happiness after such dark times you must grab onto the ankles of that happiness and not let go until it drags you face-first out of the dirt - this is not selfishness, but obligation. You were given life; it is your duty to find something beautiful within life no matter how slight.
But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilling yearnings.
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