Of the widow's countless death-duties there is really just one that matters: on the first anniversary of her husband's death the widow should think I kept myself alive.
Joyce Carol OatesRead
Where there must be a choice, a girl will choose Daddy. Even if you are Mommy, you concede that this must be so: you remember when you were a girl, too.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the bond between daughters and their fathers, suggesting that girls have an innate preference for their fathers during key choices.
Joyce Carol Oates highlights the complex emotional landscape of familial relationships, particularly the unique bond between fathers and daughters. This quote reflects on the idea that, in moments of choice, a girl often feels a strong inclination to turn to her father, which mothers can understand as they too once experienced similar feelings. It suggests a universal truth about the special connection that often exists between daughters and their dads, rooted in affection and support.
Themes
FatherDaughterFamilyRelationshipsBond
In practice
Example use cases
During a speech at a family reunion, one could quote this to emphasize the importance of a father-daughter relationship.
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