Nobody would know me from my own description of myself; which is why, when called upon (rarely, I grant) to provide an account, I tailor it, I adapt, I try to provide an outline that can, in some way, correlate to the outline that people understand me to have -- that, I suppose, I actually have, at this point. But who I am in my head, very few people really get to see that. Almost none. It's the most precious gift I can give, to bring her out of hiding.
Interpretation
The quote explores the discrepancy between one's self-perception and how others perceive them, highlighting the struggle of revealing one's true self.
In this quote, Claire Messud reflects on the complexity of identity and self-representation. She acknowledges that the way she describes herself is often tailored to fit the expectations of those around her, suggesting that her true self is rarely seen by others. This speaks to the universal experience of feeling misunderstood or hidden, and emphasizes the value of authenticity and vulnerability in personal relationships. The act of revealing one's true self is portrayed as a precious and rare gift, which can deepen connections with others.
In practice
In a personal growth seminar discussing the importance of authenticity.
Years ago, I worked in a newspaper office, and there were men that would have fits of temper, and it was just accepted that that's who they were, and everyone would laugh about it, but if a woman got upset or angry, something wasn't right: she was 'hysterical' or 'a little unhinged.' It didn't have the same sort of connotation at all.
We think that - as kids, you know - that kids make up stories and live in a sort of fictional place, but that, as grown-ups, we tell the truth and live in fact. But, of course, the reality is we take the facts that we know, and then we fill in all the blanks.
If you ask a ten-year-old girl what she wants to do when she grows up and a fourteen-year-old girl what she wants to be when she grows up, in many cases, the older child will have a much less free sense of what's possible.
The understanding of "evolutionary consciousness" is perhaps the most important thing lacking in spiritual practices today. Evolution means growth and development. This means that there are aspects of reality that have not yet arisen in our consciousness. But they will arise if we grow.
Your face is a book, where men may read strange matters.
My first wish is, to see this plague of mankind banished from the earth, and the sons and daughters of this world employed in more pleasing and innocent amusements, than in preparing implements, and exercising them, for the destruction of mankind.
The Church was founded upon Peter: although elsewhere the same is attributed to all the Apostles, and they all receive the keys of the kingdom of heaven, the strength of the Church depends upon them all alike, yet one among the twelve is chosen so that when a head has been appointed, there may be no occasion for schism.
Ah, how many luxuries has the good God prepared for his Jewish children.
The cynic says, "One man can't do anything". I say, "Only one man can do anything."
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