Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.
Rollo MayRead
It is an obvious fact that when an age is torn loose from its moorings and everyone is to some degree thrown on his own, most people can take steps to find and realize themselves.
Interpretation
What this quote means
In times of upheaval, individuals often seek to discover their true selves.
Rollo May suggests that during periods of significant change or instability, individuals are compelled to reflect on their identities and values. This process of seeking and realizing oneself becomes more pressing when societal structures and norms break down, leading many to explore their individuality and purpose in life.
Themes
Self-DiscoveryChangeIdentitySelf-Realization
In practice
Example use cases
In a motivational speech about personal growth and learning through adversity.
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