You solve it as you get older, when you reach the point where you've tasted so much that you can somehow sacrifice certain things more easily, and you have a more tolerant view of things like possessiveness (your own) and a broader acceptance of the pains and the losses.
Interpretation
Aging brings a greater understanding of life, allowing for acceptance of loss and a decrease in possessiveness.
In this quote, Ted Hughes suggests that with age and experience, individuals gain a deeper understanding of life's complexities. As we encounter various experiences, we learn to let go of certain attachments and understand the inevitability of loss. This broader perspective fosters tolerance and acceptance of life's challenges, including our own imperfections and desires.
In practice
This quote could be used in a speech about the value of life experiences and learning from them.
...imagine what you are writing about. See it and live it. Do not think it up laboriously, as if you were working out mental arithmetic. Just look at it, touch it, smell it, listen to it, turn yourself into it. When you do this, the words look after themselves, like magic.
The inmost spirit of poetry, in other words, is at bottom, in every recorded case, the voice of pain β and the physical body, so to speak, of poetry, is the treatment by which the poet tries to reconcile that pain with the world.
Nobody wanted your dance, Nobody wanted your strange glitter, your floundering Drowning life and your effort to save yourself, Treading water, dancing the dark turmoil, Looking for something to give.
Havenβt you heard of the music of the spheres?β asked the dragon. βItβs the music that space makes to itself. All the spirits inside all the stars are singing. Iβm a star spirit. I sing too. The music of the spheres is what makes space so peaceful.
And the elephant sings deep in the forest-maze_x000D_ _x000D_ About a star of deathless and painless peace_x000D_ _x000D_ But no astronomer can find where it is.
The real mystery is this strange need. Why can't we just hide it and shut up? Why do we have to blab? Why do human beings need to confess?
In order to know the light, we must first experience the darkness.
Use memories. Do not let memories use you.
When you think about growing and being empowered yourself, it is what you've been able to do for other people that leaves you the fullest.
The spirit of Lincoln still lives; that spirit born of the teachings of the Nazarene, who promised mercy to the merciful, who lifted the lowly, strengthened the weak, ate with publicans, and made the captives free. In the light of this divine example, the doctrines of demagogues shiver in their chaff.
Words are wind, Brienne told herself. They cannot hurt you. Let them wash over you.
It has been said that next to hunger and thirst, our most basic human need is for storytelling.
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