A dogmatic belief in objective value is necessary to the very idea of a rule which is not tyranny or an obedience which is not slavery.
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When you are not feeling particularly friendly but know you ought to be, the best thing you can do, very often, is to put on a friendly manner and behave as if you were a nicer person than you actually are. And in a few minutes, as we have all noticed, you will be really feeling friendlier than you were.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Acting friendly can improve your feelings of friendliness.
C. S. Lewis suggests that even when we don't feel friendly, we can cultivate a positive attitude by consciously acting in a friendly manner. By doing so, we often find that our true feelings begin to align with our behavior, leading to an authentic sense of friendliness and connection with others.
Themes
FriendshipBehaviorPositivityEmotionsKindness
In practice
Example use cases
In a team meeting, when tensions are high, mentioning this quote can encourage everyone to act more amicably.
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