If you're fortunate, you'll meet people over the course of your career who exceed your expectations in every way. When you work or spend time with them, you find yourself wanting to be a better person.
Mark GoulstonRead
Why do people who consider themselves good communicators often fail to actually hear each other? Often it's due to a mismatch of styles: To someone who prefers to vent, someone who prefers to explain seems patronizing; explainers experience venters as volatile.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Good communication is often impeded by differing communication styles.
This quote highlights the challenges that arise in communication when individuals possess different styles of expressing themselves. It suggests that a person who prefers to vent their feelings may perceive someone who provides explanations as condescending, while the latter may view the former's approach as erratic. This mismatch can lead to misunderstandings and ineffective communication.
Themes
CommunicationListeningUnderstandingStylesInteraction
In practice
Example use cases
In a team meeting, I would引用 this quote to highlight the importance of understanding differing communication styles.
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