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People have a range of capacities to deal with overwhelming experience. Some people, some kids particularly, are able to disappear into a fantasy world, to dissociate, to pretend like it isnt happening, and are able to go on with their lives. And sometimes it comes back to haunt them.
Interpretation
What this quote means
People cope with overwhelming experiences differently, often retreating into fantasy or dissociation.
In this quote, Bessel Van Der Kolk highlights the varying ways individuals, especially children, respond to traumatic or overwhelming experiences. Some may cope by escaping into fantasy or dissociation, providing temporary relief, but this avoidance can have long-term effects that resurface later in life, potentially leading to psychological issues. The statement emphasizes the significance of understanding these coping mechanisms and their implications.
Themes
CopingTraumaDissociationFantasyPsychology
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a mental health seminar to discuss coping mechanisms in children.
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