He breathed out the bitter air that makes women doubt everything, and I breathed it in, as I had always done. I expelled my dust, the powder of everything I had destroyed with doubt, and he pulled it into his lungs.
We had loved people we really shouldn't have loved and then married other people in order to forget our impossible loves, or we had once called out hello into the cauldron of the world and then run away before anyone could respond.
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What this quote means
This quote reflects on the complexities of love and the human tendency to flee from emotional vulnerability.
Miranda July's quote delves into the complexities of love and relationships, highlighting how individuals often find themselves in love with those who are unattainable or unsuitable, leading them to marry others in an attempt to forget their impossible loves. It also touches on the fleeting nature of connection, suggesting that sometimes we reach out for intimacy or recognition in the vastness of life, only to withdraw before we receive a response, thus missing out on deeper connections.
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This quote is perfect for discussions on the complexities of love during a relationship seminar.
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