Depression can seem worse than terminal cancer, because most cancer patients feel loved and they have hope and self-esteem.
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It's very rare to have a patient who isn't absolutely delighted when you say, 'I read your feedback. The session didn't go well. You actually got more upset, and I made about three really horrible errors.' If you do that from the heart and not as a gimmick, boy, it's a wonderful thing.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Acknowledging mistakes and being open about feedback fosters a strong connection with others.
In this quote, David D. Burns emphasizes the importance of honesty and vulnerability in relationships, particularly in a therapeutic context. By openly acknowledging one's mistakes and expressing genuine interest in feedback, a deeper trust and understanding is cultivated, leading to positive outcomes for both parties involved. Such authenticity not only enhances the therapeutic process but also strengthens interpersonal bonds.
Themes
FeedbackHonestyRelationshipsVulnerabilityTrust
In practice
Example use cases
In a therapy session, mentioning this quote can help set a tone of openness and honesty.
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