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Rather than going after our walls and barriers with a sledgehammer, we pay attention to them. With gentleness and honesty, we move closer to those walls. We touch them and smell them and get to know them well. We begin a process of acknowledging our aversions and our cravings. We become familiar with the strategies and beliefs we use to build the walls: What are the stories I tell myself? What repels me and what attracts me? We start to get curious about what’s going on.
Pema Chodron
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Interpretation

What this quote means

The quote emphasizes the importance of understanding and acknowledging our emotional barriers instead of forcefully trying to break them down.

Pema Chodron's quote highlights the significance of approaching our emotional barriers with curiosity and gentleness rather than aggression. By taking the time to understand our fears, aversions, and the beliefs that construct our walls, we can foster personal growth and self-awareness. This reflective practice allows us to explore our inner narratives and motivations, paving the way for meaningful change and deeper connections with ourselves and others.

Themes

Self-AwarenessEmotional BarriersCuriosityGentlenessPersonal Growth

In practice

Example use cases

In a motivational speech about overcoming personal challenges.

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