We can come to look upon the deaths of our enemies with as much regret as we feel for those of our friends, namely, when we miss their existence as witnesses to our success.
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To find out your real opinion of someone, judge the impression you have when you first see a letter from them.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Our initial impressions reveal our true feelings towards others, reflected in how we respond to their letters.
This quote by Arthur Schopenhauer suggests that the first emotional reaction we experience upon seeing a letter from someone can provide significant insight into our genuine feelings about that person. It implies that our subconscious attitudes are often revealed in these spontaneous responses, which can reveal deeper truths about our relationships.
Themes
First ImpressionOpinionRelationshipsJudgmentLetter
In practice
Example use cases
In a public speaking engagement about the importance of communication, one might quote Schopenhauer to emphasize how initial impressions affect relationships.
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