Do not live with a vocation that is harmful to humans and nature. Do not invest in companies that deprive others of their chance to live. Select a vocation that helps realise your ideal of compassion.
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We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
True love involves understanding and considering the needs of both partners.
This quote by Nhat Hanh emphasizes that love should be selfless and rooted in a mutual understanding of each other's needs. If one partner's desire is solely to possess the other without regard for their feelings or requirements, it diminishes the essence of love, reducing it to mere selfishness rather than a genuine emotional connection.
Themes
LoveUnderstandingSelflessnessRelationshipsEmpathy
In practice
Example use cases
Use this quote in a relationship seminar to highlight the importance of mutual understanding in love.
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