Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
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Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Self-esteem based on conditions can lead to unhappiness and instability.
In this quote, Albert Ellis argues that self-esteem, when contingent upon external factors or conditions, becomes a detrimental force in a person's life. It suggests that individuals may feel inadequate or unworthy when these conditions are not met, leading to emotional and psychological suffering. Emphasizing unconditional self-acceptance might lead to a healthier sense of self-worth.
Themes
Self-EsteemConditionalSicknessWorthAcceptance
In practice
Example use cases
During a seminar on personal growth, you could quote Ellis to emphasize the importance of unconditional self-acceptance.
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