We all live in suspense, from day to day, from hour to hour; in other words, we are the hero of our own story.
Mary MccarthyRead
You mustn't force sex to do the work of love or love to do the work of sex.
Interpretation
Sex and love serve different purposes and should not be confused or forced into the role of the other.
This quote emphasizes the importance of understanding the distinct roles that sex and love play in human relationships. By stating that one mustn't force sex to fulfill the emotional depth of love, nor expect love to fulfill the physical demands of sex, it advocates for clarity and authenticity in how individuals engage in both aspects of intimacy.
In practice
During a relationship workshop, I shared this quote to illustrate the differences between physical and emotional connections.
We all live in suspense, from day to day, from hour to hour; in other words, we are the hero of our own story.
The exile is a singular, whereas refugees tend to be thought of in the mass ... What is implied in these nuances of social standing is the respect we pay to choice. The exile appears to have made a decision, while the refugee is the very image of helplessness.
Every word she writes is a lie, including "and" and "the."
Anti-Semitism is a horrible disease from which nobody is immune, and it has a kind of evil fascination that makes an enlightened person draw near the source of infection, supposedly in a scientific spirit, but really to sniff the vapors and dally with the possibility.
If one means by style the voice, the irreducible and always recognizable and alive thing, then of course style is really everything.
To care for the quarrels of the past, to identify oneself passionately with a cause that became, politically speaking, a losing cause with the birth of the modern world, is to experience a kind of straining against reality, a rebellious nonconformity that, again, is rare in America, where children are instructed in the virtues of the system they live under, as though history had achieved a happy ending in American civics.
The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.
Why are women... so much more interesting to men than men are to women?
When you listen to other women's stories you begin to understand your own better and you begin to find ways back through and with each other.
Forgiveness does not mean that we have to continue to relate to those who have done us harm. In some cases the best practice may be to end our connection, to never speak to or be with a harmful person again. Sometimes in the process of forgiveness a person who hurts or betrayed us may wish to make amends, but even this does not require us to put ourselves in the way of further harm.
O men with sisters dear, O men with mothers and wives, It is not linen you 're wearing out, But human creatures' lives!
Passion is the quickest to develop, and the quickest to fade. Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still.
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