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If we begin to get in touch with whatever we feel with some kind of kindness, our protective shells will melt, and we'll find that more areas of our lives are workable. AS we learn to have compassion for ourselves, the circle of compassion for others-what and whom we can work with, and how-becomes wider.
Pema Chodron
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Embracing kindness towards ourselves allows us to be more open and compassionate towards others.

This quote by Pema Chodron emphasizes the importance of self-compassion as a pathway to a deeper connection with others. When we approach our feelings with kindness, it encourages a melting away of the defenses we build around ourselves, leading to a more expansive and workable existence. This growth in self-compassion naturally extends our ability to empathize and connect with others, fostering a broader sense of community and understanding.

Themes

KindnessCompassionSelf-LoveEmpathyConnection

In practice

Example use cases

During a motivational speech to encourage self-acceptance.

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