What cannot be talked about cannot be put to rest. And if it is not, the wounds will fester from generation to generation.
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The unrealistic nature of these tales (which narrowminded rationalists object to) is an important device, because it makes obvious that the fairy tales’ concern is not useful information about the external world, but the inner process taking place in an individual.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Fairy tales serve to reflect the inner psychological experiences of individuals rather than convey factual information about reality.
Bruno Bettelheim argues that the fantastical elements of fairy tales, which may not align with rational or scientific thinking, are purposeful. They highlight the transformative internal journeys and emotional struggles of individuals. These stories invite readers to explore their subconscious and inner lives, rather than focus solely on the external world and its realities.
Themes
Fairy TalesInner JourneyPsychologyNarrativeSelf-Discovery
In practice
Example use cases
In a lecture about the importance of storytelling in psychological development, this quote illustrates how narratives shape individuals' understanding of themselves.
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