I don't think any of us can speak frankly about pain until we are no longer enduring it.
Interpretation
Pain can be difficult to discuss until it has passed.
Arthur Golden's quote highlights the complex relationship we have with pain. It suggests that while we are in the midst of suffering, it might be challenging to articulate our feelings or experiences authentically. Once we have moved beyond the pain, we gain a clearer perspective, allowing us to speak more openly and honestly about it without the cloud of current suffering interfering with our thoughts and emotions.
In practice
In a support group discussing the journey of healing from trauma.
We all know that a winter scene, though it may be covered over one day, with even the trees dressed in shawls of snow, will be unrecognizable the following spring. Yet I never imagined such a thing could occur within our very selves.
An en is a karmic bond lasting a lifetime. Nowadays many people seem to believe their lives are entirely a matter of choice; but in my day we viewed ourselves as pieces of clay that forever show the fingerprints of everyone who has touched them.
As an American man of the 1990s writing about a Japanese woman of the 1930s, I needed to cross three cultural divides - man to woman, American to Japanese, and present to past.
For a flicker of a moment I imagined a world completely different from the one I'd always known, a world in which I was treated with fairness, even kindness-- a world in which fathers didn't sell their daughters.
The heart dies a slow death, shedding each hope like leaves until one day there are none. No hopes. Nothing remains.
He was like a song I'd heard once in fragments but had been singing in my mind ever since.
As soon as we notice that certain types of events 'like' to cluster together at certain times, we begin to understand the Chinese, whose theories of medicine, philosophy, and even building are based on a 'science' of meaningful coincidences.
In the two-room flat where I live in Japan, I try to take time every day to step away from the bombardment of e-mails and opportunities and papers around my desk, for an hour, and just sit on our 30-inch terrace in the sun, reading something sustaining, whether 'The Age of Innocence' or the latest by Colm Toibin.
Whatever its symbol - cross or crescent or whatever - that symbol is man's reminder of his duty inside the human race.
Spirituality is not a question of morality, it is a question of vision. Spirituality is not the practising of virtues - because if you practise a virtue it is no longer a virtue. A practised virtue is a dead thing, a dead weight. Virtue is virtue only when it is spontaneous; virtue is virtue only when it is natural, unpractised - when it comes out of your vision, out of your awareness, out of your understanding.
The stories we are told shape the way we see the world, which shapes the way we experience the world.
True human goodness, in all its purity and freedom, can come to the fore only when its recipient has no power.
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