You know the old adage: Plant an expectation, reap a disappointment.
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I think it's wonderful when a love story begins with a great deal of romance and affection, passion and excitement, that's how it should be. But I don't necessarily know that it's the wisest thing in the world to expect that it ends there, or that it should, 30 years down the road, still look as it did on the night of your first kiss.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Love evolves over time, and one should not expect it to remain the same as it started.
Elizabeth Gilbert suggests that while the initial stages of a love story may be filled with romance, passion, and excitement, it is unrealistic to expect that the relationship will maintain the same intensity indefinitely. She advocates for recognizing the natural progression of love and understanding that it can grow and change in meaningful ways over the years, rather than adhering strictly to the feelings experienced at the beginning.
Themes
LoveRelationshipsGrowthChangeRomance
In practice
Example use cases
Using this quote during a wedding speech to highlight the evolving nature of love.
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