My children cause me the most exquisite suffering of which I have any experience. It is the suffering of ambivalence: the murderous alternation between bitter resentment and raw-edged nerves, and blissful gratification and tenderness. Sometimes I seem to myself, in my feelings toward these tiny guiltless beings, a monster of selfishness and intolerance.
The word revolution itself has become not only a dead relic of Leftism, but a key to the deadendedness of male politics: the revolution of a wheel which returns in the end to the same place; the revolving door of a politics which has liberated women only to use them, and only within the limits of male tolerance.
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What this quote means
This quote critiques the stagnation in political movements regarding women's liberation, suggesting that progress is superficial and confined by male authority.
Adrienne Rich's quote reflects on the concept of revolution in the context of politics and gender. She asserts that despite the rhetoric of progress and change, the reality is that women's liberation often ends up being constrained by male-dominated systems, likening it to a wheel that merely spins in place without genuine advancement. This metaphor of a 'revolving door' underscores the cyclical nature of societal change that ultimately fails to break free from established patriarchal norms.
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This quote is great for discussions in gender studies classes.
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