The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating his soul, for the result is an interference with his ability to feel, to be aware, and to remember.
Alice MillerRead
The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place in their own soul where they could cry their beart out.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights the deep emotional suffering of abused children, emphasizing their isolation both in the family context and within themselves.
Alice Miller emphasizes the profound loneliness and internal pain experienced by abused children. They struggle to find a safe emotional space, even within their own identity, to express their grief and hurt, which compounds their suffering and emotional isolation.
Themes
AbuseChildrenSufferingIsolationEmotional Pain
In practice
Example use cases
This quote could be used in a discussion on child therapy approaches.
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