To get away from one's working environment is, in a sense, to get away from one's self; and this is often the chief advantage of travel and change.
Charles Horton CooleyRead
If we divine a discrepancy between a man's words and his character, the whole impression of him becomes broken and painful; he revolts the imagination by his lack of unity, and even the good in him is hardly accepted.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote emphasizes the importance of consistency between a person's words and their character.
Charles Horton Cooley expresses that when there is a mismatch between what a person says and who they truly are, it creates a fractured perception of that individual. This dissonance not only detracts from their positive attributes but also leads to a painful evaluation by others, as people struggle to reconcile their contradictory nature.
Themes
IntegrityConsistencyCharacterCommunicationPerception
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a speech about the value of authenticity in leadership.
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