Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them.
M. Scott PeckRead
We cannot even let the other person into our hearts or minds unless we empty ourselves. We can truly listen to him or truly hear her only out of emptiness.
Interpretation
What this quote means
To truly connect with others, we must first let go of our own preconceptions and biases.
This quote emphasizes the importance of emptiness or open-mindedness in fostering genuine connections with others. M. Scott Peck suggests that in order to truly listen and understand another person, we must first create space within ourselves by setting aside our own thoughts and emotions, allowing for deeper communication and empathy.
Themes
ListeningEmpathyConnectionRelationshipsOpenness
In practice
Example use cases
In a workshop about communication skills, this quote can be used to illustrate the importance of active listening.
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If your goal is to avoid pain and escape suffering, I would not advise you to seek higher levels of consciousness or spiritual evolution.
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All my life I used to wonder what I would become when I grew up. Then, about seven years ago, I realized that I was never going to grow up--that growing is an ever ongoing process.
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When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion - through the fact that for that someone (or for ourself) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful.
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An unconscious, gentle process whereby people who want to be loving attempt to be so by telling little white lies, by withholding some of the truth about themselves and their feelings in order to avoid conflict. Pseudocommunity is conflict-avoiding; true community is conflict-resolving.
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