Time and trouble will tame an advanced young woman, but an advanced old woman is uncontrollable by any earthly force.
It's disquieting to reflect that one's dreams never symbolize one's real wishes, but always something Much Worse... If I really wanted to be passionately embraced by Peter, I should dream of dentists or gardening. I wonder what unspeakable depths of awfulness can only be expressed by the polite symbol of Peter's embraces?
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote reflects the ironic contrast between our dreams and true desires, suggesting that dreams often reveal our fears rather than our wishes.
Dorothy L. Sayers's quote dives into the complexities of human desires and the subconscious mind. It posits that dreams, rather than representing our true wishes—such as a passionate relationship—often reflect our anxieties and fears, leading us to dream about something we dread instead. The humorous mention of dreaming about dentists or gardening signifies how far removed our dreams can be from our actual yearnings, hinting at the underlying chaos within our subconscious that veils our true sentiments.
Themes
In practice
Example use cases
In a psychology class discussing the nature of dreams and desire.
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