Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
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We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of changing our thoughts and feelings rather than trying to alter past events.
Albert Ellis suggests that while we cannot go back and change our past experiences, we have the power to influence our present mindset and behavior. This notion highlights the significance of cognitive behavioral approaches in helping individuals recognize that their emotional distress often stems from their own thought processes rather than external factors. By teaching people to adjust their thinking, they can improve their current emotional state and overall behavior.
Themes
ChangeThoughtsFeelingsBehaviorMindset
In practice
Example use cases
In a mental health seminar discussing the importance of cognitive reframing.
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