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When perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver!
Interpretation
What this quote means
Perfectionism leads to negative emotions like shame and fear.
This quote by Brené Brown illustrates how the pursuit of perfection can create a detrimental emotional environment. When we allow perfectionism to lead our actions, we inadvertently invite shame and fear into our lives, making them constant companions, ultimately hindering our growth and authenticity.
Themes
PerfectionismShameFearEmotionsAuthenticity
In practice
Example use cases
During a motivational speech about overcoming obstacles, you might say this quote to emphasize the emotional costs of striving for perfection.
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