For me, it is freedom, freedom from everything: when I write, I'm not a woman. I'm not a Muslim. I'm not a Moroccan. I can reinvent myself, and I can reinvent the world.
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I remember, when I was a teenager, people telling me, 'You know, when you are a mother, you will never feel lonely. You will feel so much love, and you will be fulfilled by this love.' Then I became a mother. And I learnt that is absolutely wrong: you can feel very lonely with your children, even if you love them.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Motherhood can be isolating despite the love for one's children.
Leila Slimani's quote reflects the often-unspoken reality of motherhood, where love for children does not preclude feelings of loneliness. It conveys the message that, while the societal expectation is that motherhood brings complete fulfillment and companionship, many mothers experience isolation and solitude in their roles, reminding us that emotional experiences can be complex and multifaceted.
Themes
MotherhoodLonelinessLoveFulfillmentIsolation
In practice
Example use cases
Using this quote in a conversation about the realities of parenting during a support group for mothers.
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