Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.
Rollo MayRead
Tenderness emerges from the fact that the two persons, longing, as all individuals do, to overcome the separateness and isolation to which we are all heir because we are individuals, can participate in a relationship that, for the moment, is not of two isolated selves but a union
Interpretation
What this quote means
Tenderness arises from the desire for connection in relationships, allowing individuals to overcome their sense of isolation.
This quote by Rollo May highlights the essence of tenderness in human relationships. It suggests that as individuals, we often feel alone and separate from others. However, through a meaningful connection with another person, we can experience a momentary unity that transcends our individual isolation. This bond allows us to experience love and intimacy, revealing the shared human condition of longing for closeness.
Themes
TendernessRelationshipsConnectionIsolationUnity
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared at a wedding to emphasize the importance of connection in marriage.
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