It's very strange getting out of the military, when you've lived in Iraq, and people you know are going overseas again and again. Some of them are getting injured.
Phil KlayRead
If we fetishize trauma as incommunicable, then survivors are trapped - unable to feel truly known by their nonmilitary friends and family.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights the isolation trauma survivors face when their experiences are not understood by those around them.
Phil Klay's quote emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding in relationships, particularly for trauma survivors. When trauma is seen as something that cannot be conveyed or understood, survivors may feel isolated and alienated from their friends and family, leading to a lack of support and connection. The idea suggests that for true healing, there must be a dialogue that allows for genuine empathy and recognition of their struggles.
Themes
TraumaCommunicationRelationshipsSurvivorsUnderstanding
In practice
Example use cases
In a support group for trauma victims, this quote could be used to encourage open discussions.
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