It's very strange getting out of the military, when you've lived in Iraq, and people you know are going overseas again and again. Some of them are getting injured.
Phil KlayRead
If we fetishize trauma as incommunicable, then survivors are trapped - unable to feel truly known by their nonmilitary friends and family.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights the isolation trauma survivors face when their experiences are not understood by those around them.
Phil Klay's quote emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding in relationships, particularly for trauma survivors. When trauma is seen as something that cannot be conveyed or understood, survivors may feel isolated and alienated from their friends and family, leading to a lack of support and connection. The idea suggests that for true healing, there must be a dialogue that allows for genuine empathy and recognition of their struggles.
Themes
TraumaCommunicationRelationshipsSurvivorsUnderstanding
In practice
Example use cases
In a support group for trauma victims, this quote could be used to encourage open discussions.
More from Phil Klay
All quotes βWe have a tendency to think of war as this quasi-mystical thing, and that interpretation flattens the experience - by using different perspectives, I wanted to open a place for readers to compare and contrast, to make judgments, to engage.
Phil KlayRead
After the fighting is done, and even when it's still happening, apologies are often needed for the recounting of bare facts. Sometimes bare facts feel unpatriotic.
Phil KlayRead
Going to war is a rare experience in American culture, so it's easy for simple notions to gain a lot of weight. The reality is always more complex.
Phil KlayRead
Pity sidesteps complexity in favor of narratives that we're comfortable with, reducing the nuances of a person's experience to a sound bite.
Phil KlayRead
Even if torture works, what is the point of 'defending' America using a tactic that is a fundamental violation of what America ought to mean?
Phil KlayRead
Similar quotes
Throughout my career, from Jamaica to Nigeria, Pakistan to Switzerland, I've learned that effective diplomacy means more than shaking hands and staging photo ops. It means developing real, robust relationships. It means finding common ground and managing points of differentiation. It means doing genuine, old-fashioned, people-to-people diplomacy.
Linda Thomas-GreenfieldRead
Japanese affection is not uttered in words; it scarcely appears even in the tone of voice; it is chiefly shown in acts of exquisite courtesy and kindness.
Lafcadio HearnRead
Love should be the silver thread that runs through all your conduct. Kindness, gentleness, long suffering, forbearance, patience, sympathy, a willingness to enter into childish troubles, a readiness to take part in childish joys, - these are the cords by which a child may be led most easily, - these are the clues you must follow if you would find the way to his heart.
J. C. RyleRead
Itβs really hard to hate someone for being different when youβre too busy laughing together.
George TakeiRead
Sorry is the Kool-Aid of human emotions. It's what you say when you spill a cup of coffee or throw a gutter ball when you're bowling with the girls in the league. True sorrow is as rare as true love.
Stephen KingRead
I think we all change each other's paths. I don't know which law idea that is in physics, but I don't think any of us can live without affecting one another.
Frank OceanRead