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He was ugly, himself. Weird-ugly. But ugliness in a man doesn't matter, much. Ugliness in a woman is her life.
Joyce Carol Oates
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What this quote means

The quote highlights the different societal perceptions of beauty based on gender, suggesting that a man's ugliness is overlooked while a woman's is critically judged.

Joyce Carol Oates underscores the harshness of societal standards regarding physical appearance, particularly for women. She argues that while a man's ugliness may not significantly impact his life or social standing, a woman faces severe judgments and limitations because of her looks, illustrating the gender disparity in the value placed on beauty. This comment draws attention to the unfair reality that women are often defined by their physical appearance more than men, affecting their opportunities and self-worth.

Themes

BeautyUglinessGenderPerceptionSocietyJudgment

In practice

Example use cases

In a discussion about how media shapes our views on beauty standards.

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