When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.
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Vulnerability is based on mutuality and requires boundaries and trust. It's not oversharing, it's not purging, it's not indiscriminate disclosure, and it's not celebrity-style social media information dumps. Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Vulnerability involves sharing personal feelings with trustworthy individuals rather than oversharing indiscriminately.
Brené Brown emphasizes that true vulnerability stems from a foundation of mutual trust and respect, where personal experiences and emotions are shared intentionally with those who genuinely deserve to hear them. It contrasts with the idea of indiscriminate sharing often seen on social media, underlining the need for boundaries and careful consideration of whom we open up to.
Themes
VulnerabilityTrustRelationshipsBoundariesCommunication
In practice
Example use cases
During a workshop on emotional intelligence, the facilitator used this quote to discuss the importance of vulnerability in building authentic connections.
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